Finding Strength After 31 Years of Marriage
Last year (May 2025) I decided to end my marriage after 31 years, I had reached my limit, I had known for a long while my marriage was over, but I guess I was just looking for the courage and right time.
After I told my ex-husband I wanted to divorce his treatment towards myself became incredibly unbearable to the point I had reached a very low point mentally in my life, I could feel my mental health slipping into a dark place. My sister knew I was struggling to deal and process with a great deal, gave me the details of Rebecca Judge and suggested I contact her, I clearly remember my first initial contact, I had to leave my house and drive up the road to get some privacy as unfortunately I do still live with my ex, I took the call in my car crying throughout the meeting I felt like I was a broken mess with zero confidence who just could not process what I was having to deal with.
I have now been having weekly meetings with Rebecca and have covered many topics and techniques to help with what I was facing and damage that had been done over the years through my marriage, things we have covered, Emotional Stabilisation and Processing, Rebuilding Identity and confidence, Managing Communication and Boundaries, Future planning and Forward Momentum, Emotional Resilience and Mindset and Practical Support Through Transition.
All of this has been so helpful, it has given the help and guidance to process the transition of leaving 31 years of marriage, navigating my divorce and repairing damage that has been done over years of being married to someone who did not treat me well.
I have learnt techniques and different ways of dealing with problems and issues I have been through and that I am still facing, I feel I now have a better understanding of myself and have become so much stronger mentally just by implementing these into my life.
Rebecca has been a great support and I am very thankful.
Learning to Let Go of Guilt and Think Clearly Again
I have been working with Rebecca as my coach since the end of November, and I genuinely cannot imagine navigating one of the most difficult periods of my life without her support.
On many occasions, Rebecca has helped me recognise that I don’t need to carry as much guilt as I often feel. She has given me practical tools and techniques to help manage my emotions during a very challenging time. She allows me the space to feel upset or angry when I need to, but she also gently guides me back to a more practical perspective.
Rebecca always creates a safe and supportive environment where I feel comfortable saying anything. At the same time, she isn’t afraid to thoughtfully challenge my thinking and feelings when it’s helpful. She is incredibly knowledgeable, and if something is outside her expertise, she will always point me in the right direction.
I genuinely look forward to our sessions because they bring clarity, reassurance, and practical techniques that help ground me. I always leave feeling that I have clear actions that help me continue growing stronger and I cannot recommend Rebecca enough.